At birth we focus mainly on the needs of our soul, which wants us to accept ourselves along with our experiences, flaws, potentials, weaknesses, desires, personality….
We all have these needs. However, shortly after we are born, we realize that when we dare to be ourselves, we alter the world of adults or those close to us. And from this we deduce that it is neither good nor right to be natural. This painful discovery provokes, especially in the child, crises of anger, which become so frequent that we are forced to believe that they are normal.
The child who acts naturally, who is balanced and who has the right to be himself does not go through this type of crisis. Unfortunately, this type of “natural” child hardly exists. Most children go through the following four stages: after knowing the joy of being himself in the first stage of his existence, he knows the pain of not having the right to be himself, which is the second stage. Then comes the period of crisis, of rebellion, which is the third stage. Finally, in order to reduce the pain, the child resigns himself and ends up creating a new personality to become what others want him to be. Some people remain stuck in the third stage throughout their lives, i.e., they react continuously, they are angry or in a permanent crisis situation. These new personalities or “defenses” are five in number, and they also correspond to five major fundamental wounds. In my many years of observation, I have been able to ascertain that all human suffering can be summed up in five wounds. In this book I present them in chronological order: in the order in which each of them appears in the course of life: